RODALE NEWS, EMMAUS, PA—Ohhhhh, ohhhhh….ohhhhh, my gosh! I forgot to take the laundry out of the washing machine! Just like that, your much-sought-after orgasm goes down the drain. And while your partner gleefully gyrates toward the big "O," you're left thinking about what to pack for your kids' lunch in the morning, and how you're going to get your car into the shop for an oil change in between meetings.
Several surveys have found that just 25 percent of women always orgasm when having sex with a partner. And a whopping 80 percent of ladies fake it, according to a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Authors of another large review just published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine analyzed more than 100 studies of orgasm problems in women, and they concluded that, although there's plenty of evidence suggesting females have a much harder time climaxing (duh!), there's simply not enough scientific research investigating successful treatments for sexual dysfunction in women, for instance, a loss of sexual desire, or the inability to regularly climax. So what's a gal to do? (Certainly not wait a few years for the next study to attempt to further decipher things.)
THE DETAILS: While drugmakers are on the hunt to develop the next female Viagra, the problem is, for women, ultimate sexual pleasure isn't as simple as increasing blood flow to an organ, which is essentially what Viagra does for men. "Women need to be in the right mental headspace to have an orgasm," explains sex and relationship counselor Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Harper Collins, 2010). "Studies have shown that for women, parts of the brain associated with outside stress and anxiety deactivate as they cycle through the process of arousal. If those parts of the brain aren't deactivating, she's less likely to have an orgasm."
(And that's a shame—because climaxing boasts health benefits.)
Published on: August 5, 2010
Updated on: August 5, 2010